House of Dark Passion

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Lord of Dark Passion

and His Lady Jade.

This House is for those who live both D/s and Gorean life style. Please respect both ways .

We are based on LOVE,TOLERANCE, TRUST and RESPECT!

We are a Dom/sub{Switch} Couple
in N.C.
All limits are respected !!
WE BELIEVE IN THE RULES OF SSC.



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Sex without love is possible, certainly. But it is always inferior ♦

Friday, December 24, 2010

BDSM For Those Who Are Disabled

I wrote this about 2 years ago ..
   

    BDSM For Those Who Are Disabled

    Disabilities can affect everyone no matter the age, race, creed, sex, or religion. They vary from only a slight impact upon one's life, to a lifestyle altering state. There are many different kinds of disabilities, from dyslexia to paralyzing, to learning disabilities and each one affects a person and their relationships differently. For me, I have a physical disability with my left leg after 2 strokes is the past. I present the following information to show that even those with disabilities can enjoy the lifestyle with a little creativity, communication and some effort.

    My physical disability is rather complicated. because of My high blood pressure and My partly disabled leg playing in bdsm is difficult.

    These problems combined, create some rather difficult physical situations that must be dealt with carefully. My back can give me pain without warning, my legs can give out beneath me without warning, and some activities can not be done without some excess risk to my health.

    When this problem first started becoming a major factor in my life, I thought i would have to forgo my BDSM activities. This saddened me to no end because I enjoy BDSM and did not want to give up such a piece of myself. So I started thinking, looking at the things I enjoy doing, the ways I was taught to do them, and tried to find ways to improve these activities so they would be safer for me and I could still enjoy them.

    First, I am always allowed a safeword. With the nature of these conditions, I must be able to stop a scene (even a punishment) if needed. This requirement of course, means my partner must trust me that I will not abuse the safeword and I must not use the safeword when I do not need to. This presents a problem for many people, but with my physical health being what it is, this is an absolute necessity for me. In the case of a scene where I am gagged, an alternate safe action must be given to me if it has not already been negotiated.

    Problems with the lower back and the nerves there can radiate to the limbs. Numbness, tingling, shooting pains, muscle spasms and more can all affect the arms and legs of someone with nerve damage, depending on where the damage is. For me, this affects my lower limbs and back. Because of this so many activities are affected that I did consider leaving BDSM for a time. But I learned a few ways to overcome these obstacles. Below is a list of the activities and the changes made so that I may still enjoy them.

    Kneeling: Instead of kneeling up, I am allowed to rest my buttocks on my ankles or heels..or if necessary, sit on the floor rather than kneel. A pillow is allowed for me to kneel upon if it is to be for an extended period of time. In lieu of kneeling, in some situations, sitting Indian style is allowed.{due 2 My RA I can't kneel in any kind of form anymore}

    Bondage: any standing bondage must leave my feet flat on the floor, and not stretch my arms too far over my head. (this prevents muscle spasm from over stretching the muscles in my back) If more height for my body is required, then a small sturdy step stool is used for me to stand on.

    laying down: on my stomach..pillows must be placed beneath my hips and belly to keep my back straight.

    Positions: hands and knees, provided I keep my back from arching. Bent over positions can not be done very often, nor for long periods of time. Any position that bends me over something, must be done where I can bend from the hip/thigh joint and not the waist. This keeps the back straight and prevents nerve impingement.

    OTK spankings are done with me on a bed or couch, which provides support for my legs and upper body, preventing me from bending at the waist.

    Other items are used for pain play besides those which strike the body. As well, being more creative with where one hits can also provide the pain/pleasure mix without further injury to my back.

    I make it a point to always inform my partner before a session what condition my back is in. This goes a long way towards preventing accidental injury or real pain.

    As you can see, many things can be altered to allow one with disabilities to still enjoy most of the activities they did before they were disabled. Or even, to try out new ones they've always wanted to.

    Communication, imagination, creativity and effort will bring great results. Remember, play safe and have fun!

 

    this is partly from the 'web' but I re wrote it to fit My situation.

    Mommah Jade

Thursday, December 23, 2010

The Dark House



the Dark house
there is a solitary house
standing alone on a dark moor.
a single ever-burning candle glimmers in
the window.
in that window,
in that house,
my soul lives there with yours.
in the darkness,
under the lowering sky,
the thrashing wind,
the crashing thunder and lightning,
we live there together,
in peace.
it has been nearly 5 years since my Soul
joined yours here.
the light of my love for you burns through
the darkness of my life,
bringing a warmth that I had never felt
until now.
i make no excuse for my blind devotion
to you for this gift you have given me.
as I lie in my bed this night,
shivering with the emptiness of missing you,
somehow I know with all certainty,
that on that dark moor,
a small light figure is nestled deep in the arms
of a darker one,
a glow shimmering around us both.
the angel ghosts of you and I,
are warm and sleeping,
in that bed,
in that house,
sheltered from the wind and the rain.
and I know my soul is
                       always protected by yours


Note by HisLadyJade over 1 year ago