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finding your 'pain level'?

I wrote this Friday December 7, 2007
I found it and thought it would be good to post it here.please enjoy My essay !!
finding your 'pain level'?
Sadomasochism
Sadomasochism is often considered - in contrast to Dominance and Submission – the more physical side of BDSM. It refers to sexual gratification through the infliction of pain or suffering upon another person.The regions of the brain that manage sexual stimuli and pain overlap, resulting in some individuals associating pain with sexual pleasure as the neurological reactions are intertwined.
Sadomasochism is categorized a "Disorder of sexual preference" and described as follows: "A preference for sexual activity which involves the infliction of pain or humiliation, or bondage. If the subject prefers to be the recipient of such stimulation this is called masochism; if the provider, sadism. Often an individual obtains sexual excitement from both sadistic and masochistic activities.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BDSM

My personnel thoughts about this:

sadist and masochist are perfect matches ....

but how is the match if a Dominant didn't tell a sub he wants to collar that he is a sadist....truth will come out after the collaring and in the first session ...

how about a sub who desires to feel pain but when the time comes she cant handle it?

How can a true Sadist meet his match?

any newbie submissive needs to learn about her/his own feelings and emotions before even thinking of a collar....
best is to explore with a munch group ..friends in the lifestyle the have her/his best interest in mind.

start of with a play session to find your 'painlevel'

let the Dominant use some spanking toys and after 1 hit ...try to express it in a level from 1-10
each spanking tool should be tried once in a beginner session
there should be a spanking session in 1 day ...and on another time {not the same day} maybe different session like sensation play.{wax play etc}
if the spanking tools session is repeated a few days later ..the pain level test should be repeated.
it will take some time and a few sessions till a submissive newbie will know her / his individual pain level.
the painlevel is different for each individual and each day.there are days a painlevel can be high and the next it may be low.Its a lot up to how the person feels.
there are a few submissive's ..there pain level will change in the level of submission and how much she /he desires to please her/his ONE !
I ,Mommah Jade would never try to match a newbie submissive with a Sadist Dominant.
I recommend that a submissive receive a training and some basic sessions before even be in a real time consideration.
basic training for BDSM can be fun ..but after everything is set for a consideration collar the submissive should be trained {personnel training} by there ONE to learn about there ONES likes and dislikes ..to please in a deeper level.
Mommah Jade Dec o7,2007 12.o7 am
Clover-style nipple clamps
The clover clamp, also referred to as a "butterfly clamp", is of Japanese design and has the ability to provide increasing tension if pulled on. The clamp itself is flat, but about 10 cm by 5 cm in size. Using spring tension, the clamp is applied to the nipple and the tension of its spring holds the clamp in place. This clamp usually provides a very high pain level, and is usually only used by more advanced users. To increase tension on the nipples, small weights such as fishing line sinkers can be attached to the ends of the clamp. As increased pulling tension is applied to the clamp, it will cause the jaws of the clamp to close tighter depending on the amount of pull pressure. Another method is to use the clamps to keep a person in one place. If cord is tied from the clamp to a fixed place, the wearer of the clamps cannot move away because the clamps will tighten as they try to move. Eventually the clamps would be pulled off the nipples, but not before considerable pain and discomfort is felt.
Friday December 7, 2007
~Mommah Jad

On DaddyDom's and babygirls

On DaddyDom's and babygirls by Kendra

 

I could never find a good description  but Kendra found the perfect words ....here is it ...

On DaddyDom's and babygirls by Kendra
I mentioned the term Daddy Dom in a chat room the other day and was greeted by a resounding Yuk! It got me thinking about the misconceptions surrounding this aspect of D/s. 

I realize most think that it involves a father/daughter relationship. That isn't quite true, 

Daddy/little girl is a much different level. I do not know if I can explain what I mean so I will simply talk about what a Daddy Dom is to me.First I should say that in my relationship my Dom is not my father, he is nothing like my father, and I have no need for him to replace my father. He is however my Daddy. We do not engage in age play specifically ( beyond the occasional school girl fantasy s) and our relationship is not based on any need to have sex with children. I am always all woman, and always a very independent woman. He does have the ability to make me feel like a little girl, however, a very cherished and sometimes needy little girl. It is a feeling that I revel in, it is the safest place I have ever been, and it allows me the freedom to be all that I am without fear of reprisals.

So..what makes a Daddy Dom? 

First and foremost he loves his little girl. She is his prized possession. His eyes light up when she walks into the room and he takes great pride in her successes. After all, he helped to create her. She holds the most tender part of his heart and has the greatest power to hurt him.Seeing her hurt however is not something a Daddy Dom wants. He sees it as his job to protect her, both from the outside world and herself. He may love to cause her great pain in a scene, but he hates to be the one to hurt her emotionally. It hurts him to have to punish her , but he knows it is sometimes necessary.This takes great strength on his part. It takes strength to control her, and to shape her to his needs and desires. It takes strength to be her confidant, her shoulder, her anchor. It takes strength to let her out into the world when all he wants to do is hold her safe in his arms. And it takes strength to do what is necessary when she needs to be disciplined.A Daddy Dom knows the value of discipline, though at times his soft heart gets the best of him. He knows that in order for his little girl to be the best she can possibly be he must stand firm. He uses his experience in life and his knowledge of her to provide proper direction and punishment when the need arises. He knows this hurts her, and that tears at his heart, but he also knows it is for her own good.A Daddy Dom provides something else that is very important to his submissive..acceptance. She is safe in his arms because he knows her, everything about her, and he still loves her. When she goes to him she knows that this man knows all of her dirty little secrets and it doesn't matter. To him she is beautiful.Many of you may be asking what separates a Daddy Dom from any other Dom. In most cases very little. Hopefully they all provide love, strength, protection, discipline, and acceptance. I have heard Daddy Doms described as a kinder, gentler, Dom. I like that definition though I know it won't apply to all. I guess when it really comes down to it I can't explain it. There is something infinitely magical about a Daddy Dom. Perhaps it is something only a little girl can understand.

written by Kendra