I, with a deeper instinct, choose.....

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Questions on seeking references

Questions on seeking references
as a Domme the questions about references comes up on a regular basic .a slave{male} would not offer his service to Me without any references.
what is normal for Me is maybe not normal or regular for you .
how Dom's {males} feel about references?
does it bother them if a new possible sub asking for references and wants to speak to former subs?


Is it wrong to ask for references, to inquire of others about what they know about someone, - how would you approach this?

Does it bother you if people ask around about you, or ask you questions about your past partners and play history?
Lady Jade






quote:“Rumor travels faster, but it don't stay put as long as truth”

I only meow 4 My Daddy or how many cats is a 'gang'

the kitten 'gang '


this morning started with an incredible good coffee smell ...so I called out from the bedroom to the living room ''Daddy are you there ? and what is smelling so good?''
Daddy fixed some special coffee ,I think it called 'hazelnut coffee' and he had some ENTENMAN chocolate glazed Donuts.mmm yummy ..as I am not so a sweet things fan but the combination of hazelnut cream coffee and chocolate glazed Donuts sound delicious to Me.
Daddy was bringing it to the bed room and We had breakfast together ,with as usual ,the cats watching ,specialty stormy ,she enjoy sweets and will always beg .
then the chaos started ...lol tweety felt sick and puked ,Daddy was trying to clean it up when stormy ran by with the end of the toilet paper in her mouth ,meaning the roll was rolling off and she ran from the main bathroom to the end of the place ...emptying the roll in the hole house ..it was 2 funny . .like 'here I come with
paper to clean up tweetys mess'
then there is midnight ,she is still the kitten ,she likes to sit on the pc chair ,now the chair is black and midnight 2 ..you can imagine we almost sit on her a few times.she enjoys to get spinned around the chair like a lil kid would.
midnight is in heat at the moment and that means she is sticks like glue to Daddy ,she sits in front of the bedroom door ,while he sleeps and is begging Me with her looks to open the door so she can join Daddy in the bed.
but all cats are now of limits to the bedroom ...see 1 cat is ok ...2 maybe so ..too but 3 cats is a gang and the team up on trying to keep Daddy awoke so they can cuddle and play with him all the time.

SAFETY RULES A REPOST

SAFETY
Emotional Safety

No, pain is not all physical. Sometimes, it's in your head and your heart as well, and sometimes, those scars are the hardest to heal. Here are some tips to lessen your chances of getting them in the first place.

1)Be honest. With yourself. With prospective partners. Never be ashamed to admit you don't know something, or to ask questions. If you're looking for 24/7, don't tell someone you only want to play. If you're looking for love and romance, be up-front about it. If you are dishonest about what you want, it's not only you who could get hurt in the long run.

2)Never reveal too much about your personal life to anyone on-line. There are too many people who'll use your heartaches and problems for hot IM gossip.

3)If something doesn't feel right, it probably isn't. Your instincts, once again, are your greatest gift and resource. Use them, and listen to them.

4)Heed warnings. If you're told by more than one person that a prospective partner could be trouble, LISTEN. Take into account that it's someone else's opinion of someone you're getting to know, but always listen, and openly ask your partner about what you hear. Ultimately, it's up to you to decide if you believe everything you hear, but always hear what someone is trying to tell you, and always, check it out.

5)If a prospective partner asks you not to ask anyone else on-line about them, ask yourself why. Then ask them why. And if you can't come up with any satisfactory answers, either walk away, or proceed with EXTREME caution.

6)If a prospective partner is hesitant with personal information after you've already given yours, then take it as a warning. FIND OUT WHY.

7)Don't get dragged into on-line gossip. It may be fun for awhile, but eventually it will only come back to haunt you. There are people on-line who have nothing better to do. Don't become one of them.

8)Think for yourself. Trust yourself. Be honest with yourself. And above all, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF

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Note: These suggestions may seem to be bordering on paranoia, but it doesn't cost anything to be cautious. Don't take chances when your mental, physical and emotional health could be at risk.

Do what's right for you, but consider these or similar suggestions very seriously before agreeing to meet someone for BDSM activity for the first time.{there shouldnt be any BDSM activity on first Meet} Any Dom/me or sub who is reputable and trustworthy should have no problems with these or similar procedures, and if they do, perhaps that should be a warning signal that they are not what they appear to be.

The following information should be given to the person(s) receiving your safe calls:

* Your full name
* Your home address and phone number
* Make, model, color, and license plate number of your car if you are driving yourself, or
* Detailed information (flight numbers and times, rental car information, etc.) if you are using other transportation

ALL the information you have on person you are meeting, including:

* Their full name and screenname(s) or logon ID(s)
* Their address and phone number(s)
* Their age, description, any and all information you have on the person you are meeting.

Pass on to your safe call person(s):

* Where you are meeting
* The name of place you are meeting
* The address of the meeting place, including room number (if applicable) {THERE SHOULDNT BE A MEET IN A HOTEL ROOM}and phone number (if you do not have it ahead of time, give it during first phone call)
* When you are meeting - time and date {ALWAYS A PLACE IN PUPLIC}
* The phone number for the local police in the town you are meeting

Be sure to have agreed and understood codewords for your safe call, one indicating that everything is ok, and one indicating that you need help.

* The first phone call should be made within 15 minutes of the established meeting time.
* The second phone call should be made within 30 minutes {OR EARLIER}after the first.
* The third phone call should be made within 2 hours after that or before leaving the place of the meeting, whichever comes first.
* The fourth phone call should be made within 30 minutes of leaving the meeting.
* If the meeting lasts longer than 3 hours, phone calls should be made no less than every 2 hours apart until you part company... then proceed with the departing call and the last call

SAFE CALLS
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Safecalls

?What are they? ?Who Needs them? ?How can they help?

Many times people are so eager to meet and/or have a session they
forget about Safety.
A Safe Call is a call that is used when you are meeting your partner
real time. It is a way of letting someone know who you are going to be
with, where you are going to go and gives a way for that person to
contact you to make sure that what you thought was going to happen, does.

Set up for either you or your Safe Call to call you either at a
specified time. If it is at a specified time, then it is your
responsbiity to call your Safe Call within a half hour either way of
the designated time agreed to. If your Safe Call is the one making the
call, to be sure that you are ok. If in either case you cannot be
reached or spoken to, it is the responsibility of the
Safe Call to
contact the authorities, whether the Hotel Manager or the police from
the city you are in.

Another method of using a safe-call is to decide upon two code
phrases, which would sound normal to a person over-hearing the
conversation, but that would signify either 'all ok' or 'trouble'.
Such phrases can range from 'my head hurts' to 'I will be missing the
last bus so don't worry if I take the train'. Obviously, adjust the
phrases to your environment.

Who can you have as a Safe Call?? Anyone you trust with the
information you get from your partner. The information is not for
personal use but to use in a case of true emergency. Whether it is
your mom, dad, sister, close friend or even someone you know online
that you feel comfortable with. DO NOT go unless SOMEONE knows you are
meeting your partner..!!!! The FIRST MEETING should ALWAYS be in a
public place.

By having a Safe Call you are at least taking care not only of
yourself but of those you are leaving behind, if something goes awry
with the meeting.

You should NOT plan on playing/scening at this first meeting. Use this
time to get to know each other socially and get to know the personal
you. It is also a time to make sure that the chemistry is right
between you both. If it is not - it's ok. Not everyone you meet for
the first time is going to be that instant attraction. But be honest
about it. What you both said online/telephone may in fact NOT be what
the reality is when you meet. It is far better to know in the
beginning than to keep on and hurt for a lifetime later.

It's up to you to make sure that someone knows what is going on so
that you can get help if you need it. Take care of you for yourself
and your loved one's

I am all cried out ..weak ...sad..

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I am all cried out ...weak ....sad .....

is there something that cant keep Me from being so unhappy?

LC desided the cats {mitnite & tweety }have to go ...but go where ..?

basicly its tweety who is close to My heart ..she is My hearing since I am partly deaf ...

I rescued her and now she loose a lil hair .but with a good medicated shampoo she should be fine...

midnite needs a new home 2 ...that ok I am not so close to her yet...

I am so very sad ....

update :
after a all night talk with LC We think We keeping tweety for now

August 23, 2007....NOT My Day

today was.......not really My Day ....
yes its My b day ..but it was 1 of those chaos days ...let Me tell you ...

well you all know that I am an immigrant and I am waiting for My 'aprovol notice ' ..it was sent in april 2007 ..We filed in mai 2004 ....
but the letter never reached Me.
since I have a print out from they immigration web site saying that it was sent ..it was clear that I would ask the local post office 'where is My Letter?'
I did so and the phone was dropt in a rude manner ...so LC called them back and the same thing happend to him ..the 3rd call he was finally able to talk to someone ...and the person {who didnt tell Us there name as the other 2 b4}was even more rude !
Well after We talked to a friend that works with the newpaper We got the tip to go to postoffice headquarters .
see if I can proof that I never recieved the notice I might DONT have to pay for fileing with immigrations about a lost/missing/not recieved card.
We was party successful and the lady that works for the main postoffice handled every thing great.a new file has to be made .
then We drove in the heat ..its about a 100' something out there ...
to the store {www.aldi.com}...
and just after being done ..{shopt ground beef and stuff} the muffler got loose and LC fixed it in the heat ...
My poor Daddy ...
We got home and was bring the groceries in side thats when mace {the pup } desided he needs to go pp....

I felt like having a heat stroke ......
a few min later ...
We found out that out that our tweety ...ran out somehow ..
so I was crying and I worry about tweety ...
gosh I cant stand thinking someone would hurt tweety ...
about 2 hours later the ppl next door knocked and they had found tweety and I am happy she is back home ..well she puked lots of grass but thats fine ...
at least she is back !
other then that I got a b day spanking last night and was flying high ....mmmm
well that was My b day.

feeling My age

My husband said that I 'act' old......he wants Me to go out and party ...be with females but ...
I cant....
he said He wants 'to do something wild' and He said that I useto do things like that {I did when I was 20}..but ...
I cant...
because after I am done with laundry {the dryer outlets dont fit our place}I have to hang it up ...where ? in the master bathroom ...now tweety puked on a huge comforter ..where to hang those after washing ?
mace pipi on a pillow I made {to wash it it need to be taken apart {just did that the night b4 and it was just dry and reput together} well Mace pipi also on a nother comforter I placed for him to sleep on ......
he pooped when We didnt see him where the litterbox useto be ...
and I washed the carpet and the comforters ..and the pillow and cant even wash LCs work clothes. because the day has only 24 hours .....
or My clothes .....
I cook breakfast ,lunch and dinner ...wash dishes ..vac the house .....
I clean up and wash the bed room carpet and its all nice till I wake up ..and its messy as b4 ..and LC ask why dont I wanna go out do wild things?
why I am tired ?
He dont wanna hear about My thyroid or My artiritis or My old stabbing wounds {they hurt from time to time}

He said I am acting old .....but I feel like I am a house cleaning person ....when I am done I dont feel like party or doing wild things
{whatever that is} I must have forgotten what that was ........yes I admit I feel My age ...
~Mommah Jade



I love My husband very very much and pray that he might understand My side 1 day ...till then I will just wait

Feminine Men and their Love of Dominant Women

Isabella Valentine
is one of the most highly sought-after hypnodommes today! Specializing in erotic hypnosis and forced feminization, Isabella uses brainwashing and mind control techniques to lure Her subjects. She is a real life who breathes and lives domination. It is Her life. She has thousands of personal clients, each one coming to Her to experience many different types of hypnosis. Many seek Her because She is top-ranked as a world-renowed hypnotist with excellent Domination skills. Others seek Her because She helps them realize buried fantasies in order to surface them





Feminine Men and their Love of Dominant Women

Posted on Sunday 3 December 2006

Feminine Men and their Love of Dominant Women: A Jungian Perspective

Written and Researched by Isabella Valentine

Throughout my years as a professional dominatrix I have always been drawn to submissive males, not only because they show their adorable and obedient feminine sides, but because it allows me to showcase power I wouldn’t normally be allowed to use in today’s society.

Most of my submissives may be biologically male, but some are offended when they are called “men” simply because they don’t feel their gender was assigned fairly. Sure they may have been born with male genitals, but one thing I’ve learned is that gender, sexual preference, and sexual identity are all held together by a very thin thread. These submissive, effeminate men have been my sole source of income for years. I work full-time interacting with people confused about their sexuality. Almost all of them have one thing in common: they love being dominated and treated like girls.

When I first heard of Carl Jung’s theory of anima and animus, my first impression was that perhaps this psychologist was well aware of the femininity that men face every day and the challenges that women must overcome.

I grew up in conservative Alabama, in the core of the Bible Belt, surrounded by gentlemen trying to be chivalrous in their virility. Throughout my childhood, I believed that men had their stereotypical roles and women had theirs. Women in suits were lesbians. Men in pink were homosexual. Looking at the world today through adult eyes, I see there is absolutely no way to simply ask “Are you gay?” or “Are you straight?” simply because the world is not as black and white as it appeared to me years ago.

“A part of our persona is the role of male or female we must play. For most people that role is determined by their physical gender. But Jung, like Freud and Adler and others, felt that we are all really bisexual in nature. When we begin our lives as fetuses, we have undifferentiated sex organs that only gradually, under the influence of hormones, become male or female. Likewise, when we begin our social lives as infants, we are neither male nor female in the social sense. Almost immediately — as soon as those pink or blue booties go on — we come under the influence of society, which gradually molds us into men and women.

In all societies, the expectations placed on men and women differ, usually based on our different roles in reproduction, but often involving many details that are purely traditional. In our society today, we still have many remnants of these traditional expectations. Women are still expected to be more nurturant and less aggressive; men are still expected to be strong and to ignore the emotional side of life. But Jung felt these expectations meant that we had developed only half of our potential.” (Boeree 1997)

Sometimes a man might browse lingerie stores with timid eyes, afraid a female behind the counter might judge him. Or worse, what if another man notices him there? Many of these men have prominent feminine sides, called anima, which may influence their lives more than their masculine sides.

These people tend to struggle emotionally, often questioning themselves and their sexual identity when they find urges to wear feminine clothing. These clothes can range from lingerie which aid in masturbation to wearing girdles and skirts which make them feel passable as women.

Sometimes they go to shoe stores and pretend to shop for wives or girlfriends when purchasing items such as heels or pumps in fear they won’t be a “manly man” if they shop for themselves.

Sometimes people discover their counter-gendered lives through dreams where they are surrounded by satin or silk. This may lead them to believe they actually want to WEAR the fabric, which is known to arouse many sensations when in contact with skin. Analytic therapy allows people to use word associations and dream interpretations to help make sense of their perplexing lives. On the other hand, not all dreams have a need for interpretation at all and are simple in their context.

Carl Jung once said: “…the dream comes in as the expression of an involuntary unconscious psychic process beyond the control of the conscious mind. It shows the inner truth and reality of the patient as it really is: not as I conjecture it to be, and not as he would like it to be, but as it is.” (Bennett 1983)

Jung believed that every human being has a persona, a mask that people wear every day of their lives. One classic example to support this theory, is a retired military veteran who once served as Chief of the Coast Guard in Florida. He lived every day of his adult life as a respected, revered, decorated officer. He spent over twenty years training soldiers to be strong men and had wives who viewed him as the “perfect gentleman.” Everywhere he went, people always saw him as a mustache-wearing, muscular man.

But since the age of six, he hid a little skeleton in his closet. He liked to dress like a girl. None of his Coast Guard buddies knew it. None of his wives suspected it. Throughout his childhood and adult life, he put on his daily persona so the world would accept his manliness as they saw appropriate. This man eventually became my temporary live-in partner. He became my protégé, my conquest. I wanted to know everything there was to know about this alternative lifestyle. I wanted to understand the need for any man to want to wear negligee and feel like a lady.

“No man is so entirely masculine that he has nothing feminine in him… there is no human experience, nor would experience be possible at all, without the intervention of a subjective aptitude… Thus the whole nature of man presupposes woman, both physically and spiritually. His system is tuned in to woman from the start, just as it is prepared for a quite definitive world where there is water, light, air, salt, carbohydrates, etc…. an inherited collective image of woman exists in a man’s unconscious.” (Jung’s words to Bennett 1983 p.124)

It is apparent that men have feminine sides. Assuming that this also can mean having a submissive side, I have concluded that submissive men (when expressing their feminine attributes) will be drawn to assertive women. Women who actively show their dominant side, also called animus, tend to be respected and taken seriously. Men who have assumed their roles as submissives and women who have taken their roles as dominants are both likely to complement each other sexually.

During the six months I resided with the retired veteran, I began to notice things about myself I had never realized before. I enjoyed telling him what to do, ordering him to cook all meals and demanding he only serve it when dressed in feminine attire. Anytime I stepped out of my persona as a stereotypical “lady” and let out my assertive side, he became sexually aroused. He worshipped me, dressed like a woman 24 hours a day, obediently finished every task and chore, and massaged my feet at a snap of a finger. He even tattooed my name on his arm, permanently branding him.

His anima went from being relatively quiet and hidden to being the prominent factor in his life. Jung describes the anima in his own words:

“She stands for the loyalty which in the interests of life he must sometimes forego; she is the much needed compensation for the risks, struggles, sacrifices that all end in disappointment; she is the solace for all the bitterness of life. And, at the same time, she is the great illusionist, the seductress, who draws him into life with her Maya-and not only into life’s reasonable and useful aspects, but into its frightful paradoxes and ambivalences where good and evil, success and ruin, hope and despair, counterbalance one another. Because she is his greatest danger she demands from a man his greatest, and if he has it in him she will receive it.[The Syzygy: Anima and Animus,” CW 9ii, par. 24]”

Living independently helped me discover things about myself and my own identity that started to make sense to me. My dominatrix lifestyle began to pay off financially in big ways. While dominating men over the telephone, my income soon tripled. When speaking to a submissive man on the phone, I would refer to him as my “lesbian lover.” This usually excited the man, which ultimately meant more income for me.

“The anima and animus can influence a person in either a positive or negative manner. If a man is under the influence of the positive anima he will show tenderness, patience, consideration, and compassion. The negative anima manifests as vanity, moodiness, bitchiness, and sensitivity to hurt feelings. A woman with a positive animus shows assertiveness, control, thoughtful rationality, and compassionate strength. The negative animus reveals in strong opinions, ruthlessness, destructive forces, and “always the last word”. Both men and women are on the path to their own integration and must struggle with the interpersonal ramifications of the anima and the animus.” (Johnston 2005)

Sometimes a submissive man desires domination because he lives in positions of power. The very idea of his power and control being stripped away by cruel, seductive women generally arouses him. Some of my most loyal clients are politicians, judges, lawyers, doctors, professors, and people who are highly respected and credible. However, once he takes on the role of a female while I take on the role of a sweet but cruel Mistress, he gets a chance to step out of his usual reality.

“The boy develops a normal male persona (mask), and enters the world. He goes to school and follows a career. The urge to actualize his repressed female potentials manifests itself in dreams and fantasy. At midlife, he experiences unhappiness due to the unrealistic and limiting nature of his masculine persona. At this time he may feel a strong, even overpowering interest in wearing women’s clothes, or of being a woman in fantasy.

This urge is natural and healthy: it is because his completeness as a person requires expressing the potentials he has repressed. Jung’s theories suggest that in order to be fully self-actualized, a man needs to ‘integrate’ his anima. He needs to get back in touch with his positive feminine characteristics. Crossdressing seems like a step to this.

The anima theory implies that a crossdresser can, once he allows his female traits back into awareness, proceed to the step of complete personality integration. Then he is fully equipped to live life. His various potentials are harmonized and able to work together. Such a person can accomplish great things. On the other hand, if integration does not occur, the man lives divided. A simple analogy would be that of like trying to drive a car with the brakes on. But perhaps a better analogy would be like trying to drive a car with two engines, each pulling the car in a different direction.

The idea then, is that the crossdresser does not literally wish to be a woman. He is trying to become himself fully. Crossdressing is, in a certain sense, a positive victory for the natural urge to integrate the personality, and to activate all potentials.“ (Anderson 2001)

Men may all have animas, but that doesn’t mean each one enjoys his submissive, feminine side equally. While some men may enjoy exaggerating their animas, such as being slapped around while prancing around in a ballerina outfit, others may be appalled by the idea. Some are simply entertained with the thought of being forcibly feminized, such as a mild threat to be tied up and forced to wear silky panties. Not all men have an equal balance of femininity and masculinity, which may confuse their self-concepts.

Some may argue that perhaps their persona is worn only at work and around others. Others feel that the mask is worn only in fantasy. I disagree. I believe all these men were born with feminine attributes that stem back to childhood and to disregard these girlish qualities is forcing them to hide in society. A feminine man’s persona may only appear as a mask to those who aren’t open-minded enough to see themselves. Almost all men have a feminine side, and most women have an assertive, masculine side that is often misconstrued as being “out of character.”

Men look up to women in power for many reasons:

Carl Jung once said, “What can a man say about woman, his own opposite? I mean of course something sensible that is outside the sexual program, free of resentment, illusion, and theory. Where is the man to be found capable of such superiority? Woman always stands just where the man’s shadow falls, so that he is only too liable to confuse the two. Then, when he tries to repair this misunderstanding, he overvalues her and believes her the most desirable thing in the world.” (CW – 10)

The very subject of sexual identity of both males and females is often confusing. Gender differences are argued throughout the world. “There are two major problems with the notion that masculine and feminine constitute universal principles of a cultural gender difference: (1) that it is self-evident and natural for men and women to fit into certain roles and attitudinal types because of their sexual structures or functions; and (2) that the anima complex of the male personality is subsumed under the same category as actual women…[leading to] confusion between male images of female people and the subjectivity (actual experiences) of female people. (Gender & Soul, p. 164)”

I hope that, as our society becomes more liberal and open-minded, more men might be able to feel comfortable letting out their anima without having to hide behind an overly-masculine persona.

All humans hide behind masks. It’s a technique that assures our survival. It’s part of how we try to invite acceptance from others. My hope is that one day men won’t feel that they have to hide their anima.

Submissive men may always be drawn to assertive, demanding women because of several reasons. First, a man being talked “down to” as a form of humiliation can be considered highly erotic. Secondly, a woman in a powerful position can be considered a form of “taboo” and therefore confuse the mind into turning the situation sexual. Thirdly, the act of serving someone sexually (whether demanded or seduced into doing so) is highly erotic for both partners – so having a beautiful woman tell a lowly man to kiss her manicured toes will certainly excite and arouse him.

Another reason, commonly overlooked, is that being forced to dress like a woman in the presence of another is like having all of one’s power stripped away. The act of losing control is often more erotic than sex itself.

Ironically, even though the submissive willfully loses control, (by submitting himself in bondage or confining situations) he is actually using his masculinity to overpower his femininity. For instance, a submissive man finds a Mistress and starts off by informing her of his likes/dislikes, explaining his boundaries, discussing what is expected of her, possibly determining payment for services rendered, and requiring the use of “safe words.” Although the man is asking to be “owned and controlled,” he is essentially setting rules - which, as society suggests, is a masculine quality.

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Footnotes/Bibliography:
(2001) Anderson, Catherine Ph.D., “Jung’s Anima Theory and How it Relates to Crossdressing” excerpt taken from informational website - http://ourworld.compuserve.com/homepages/cathytg/anima.htm

(1983) Bennett, E.A., “What Jung Really Said” excerpts from Carl Jung’s dialogues from pages 85 and 124.

(1997) Boeree, C. George, Ph.D., “Personal Theories: Carl Jung” excerpt taken from informational website: http://www.ship.edu/~cgboeree/jung.html

(2005) Johnston, Dan, “Anima and Animus” excerpt taken from informational website written by clinical psychologist: http://www.lessons4living.com/anima_and_animus.htm

(1927) Jung, Carl, “Women In Europe” In Collected Works (also referred to as CW) 10: Civilization in Transition. P. 236

(2005) Sharp, Daryl, “The Syzygy: Anima and Animus,” Collected Works (CW) 9ii, par. 24 excerpt taken from website:
http://www.jungcircle.com/muse/lexicon.html

(1991) Young-Eisendrath, Polly. “Gender, Animus, and Related Topics,” Gender and Soul in Psychotherapy, pp. 151-178.

Written and Researched by Isabella Valentine

Answering the question of why are there so many fat women in the BDSM scene?

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My thoughts......about 'serving'

My thoughts......about 'serving'

today ...well last night
I pulled a muscle in My back cleaning and washing the carpet ..and today My back snapped out completly.So now I am laying here with 6 pillows in My back and some 8 tylenol running in My blood and My thoughts are racing through My mind.
again ....
We seeking a 3rd to join Our family ,somehow it never seems to work out to find a match for Us...
it shouldnt be a 1 nighter ...
or a plaything/playpartner....
We want the person to be as real as We are ... We have Our set rules and thoughts how it should be ,at least for Us .....
We want a 3rd ...gender and sexuality is NOT of matter ....
MORE OF MATTER is personality and the will to dedicate and serve Us for Life...
and serving does not equal sex ...
Sex is healthy and great but it should never be the sole basic of serving ...
more likely it should be caring......respect...dedication...love ..
....to serve 100 % to please a Master or Mistress and that even may include sex if the Dominant deside so.

I am talking to a few ts girls they are intressted in serving and soon We will see how 'real' they are .
I welcome each ts ..sissy ..tg to talk to Me ....
I am specialized in helping transforning and feminization .
When I was a young one { lol a granny now } I worked in a place that was called Salambo !
I was in charge of the outfits for the stage and there was plenty ts /mtf and I learned make up tricks, camouflage and makeup techniques
and dressup tricks for stage shows.
I have site's in My blog roll that might help aswell.

So as I wonder how I will get trough the night without to much pain ,I am thinking also of Our cat tweety who did the 'disapearing act ' today and last week once ..and LC thinks she in 'knocked up' as he calls it ...
well hopefully NOT ...well if she is you all know I will be handing out kittens to you all ...

saturday sept 02 2007
~Mommah Jade

Laughter and Tears

Laughter and Tears

Laughter and Tears
BY
Khalil Gibran


As the Sun withdrew his rays from the garden, and the moon threw cushioned beams upon the flowers, I sat under the trees pondering upon the phenomena of the atmosphere, looking through the branches at the strewn stars which glittered like chips of silver upon a blue carpet; and I could hear from a distance the agitated murmur of the rivulet singing its way briskly into the valley.

When the birds took shelter among the boughs, and the flowers folded their petals, and tremendous silence descended, I heard a rustle of feet though the grass. I took heed and saw a young couple approaching my arbor. The say under a tree where I could see them without being seen.

After he looked about in every direction, I heard the young man saying, "Sit by me, my beloved, and listen to my heart; smile, for your happiness is a symbol of our future; be merry, for the sparkling days rejoice with us.

"My soul is warning me of the doubt in your heart, for doubt in love is a sin. "Soon you will be the owner of this vast land, lighted by this beautiful moon; soon you will be the mistress of my palace, and all the servants and maids will obey your commands.

"Smile, my beloved, like the gold smiles from my father's coffers.

"My heart refuses to deny you its secret. Twelve months of comfort and travel await us; for a year we will spend my father's gold at the blue lakes of Switzerland, and viewing the edifices of Italy and Egypt, and resting under the Holy Cedars of Lebanon; you will meet the princesses who will envy you for your jewels and clothes.

"All these things I will do for you; will you be satisfied?"

In a little while I saw them walking and stepping on flowers as the rich step upon the hearts of the poor. As they disappeared from my sight, I commenced to make comparison between love and money, and to analyze their position in the heart.

Money! The source of insincere love; the spring of false light and fortune; the well of poisoned water; the desperation of old age!

I was still wandering in the vast desert of contemplation when a forlorn and specter-like couple passed by me and sat on the grass; a young man and a young woman who had left their farming shacks in the nearby fields for this cool and solitary place.

After a few moments of complete silence, I heard the following words uttered with sighs from weather-bitten lips, "Shed not tears, my beloved; love that opens our eyes and enslaves our hearts can give us the blessing of patience. Be consoled in our delay our delay, for we have taken an oath and entered Love's shrine; for our love will ever grow in adversity; for it is in Love's name that we are suffering the obstacles of poverty and the sharpness of misery and the emptiness of separation. I shall attack these hardships until I triumph and place in your hands a strength that will help over all things to complete the journey of life.

"Love - which is God - will consider our sighs and tears as incense burned at His altar and He will reward us with fortitude. Good-bye, my beloved; I must leave before the heartening moon vanishes."

A pure voice, combined of the consuming flame of love, and the hopeless bitterness of longing and the resolved sweetness of patience, said, "Good-bye, my beloved."

They separated, and the elegy to their union was smothered by the wails of my crying heart.

I looked upon slumbering Nature, and with deep reflection discovered the reality of a vast and infinite thing -- something no power could demand, influence acquire, nor riches purchase. Nor could it be effaced by the tears of time or deadened by sorrow; a thing which cannot be discovered by the blue lakes of Switzerland or the beautiful edifices of Italy.

It is something that gathers strength with patience, grows despite obstacles, warms in winter, flourishes in spring, casts a breeze in summer, and bears fruit in autumn -- I found Love .

Mommah Jade's DON'T DO LIST !!

Mommah's DON'T DO LIST !!

Mommah's DONT DO LIST !!


Mommah say's......


......DONT SHORETEN THE TIME OF CONSIDERATION CAUSE YOU FELL IN LOVE WITH YOUR DOMINANT!!!


......DONT BELIEVE YOUR A WHORE,SLUT ETC. CAUSE YOU WAS TOLD THAT IN A SCEENE!!


.....DONT RELOCATE WITH ALL YOUR HOUSEHOLD AND KIDS ON FIRST MEET!!


....DONT LOOSE CONTROL DURING A BDSM PLAY PARTY!!


....DONT FORGET YOUR OWN SAFETY CAUSE SOMEONE ELSE SAID SO!!


....DONT PLAY WITH FIRE IN A SCEENE IF YOUR NOT FOLLOWING SAFETY RULES!!


....DONT FORGET THE AFTERCARE FOR YOUR SUB/SLAVE!!


....DONT GET YOUR KIDS INTO BDSM ACTIVITY!!


....DONT FORGET TO BUY STERIL ONE TIME USE ONLY NEEDLES FOR NEEDLE PLAY!!


....DONT FORGET YOUR SAFECALL NO MATTER WHAT!!


....DONT GIVE OUT PERSONEL INFORMATION TO ANYONE YOU DONT KNOW!!


.....DONT FORGET TO BE A MENTOR IF YOUR A MENTOR!!


....DONT EXPECT A SIR FROM A SUB /SLAVE YOU DONT KNOW!!


....DONT TOUCH ANOTHER DOMINANTS SUB/SLAVE!!


.....DONT TRY ANY NEW BDSM ACTIVITY WITHOUT A FELLOW DOMINANT!!


....DONT STOP BELIEVING IN THE LORD JUST BECAUSE YOUR INTO BDSM!!


....DONT BELIEVE YOUR WEAK CAUSE YOUR A SUBMISSIVE !!


....DONT HAVE A SCEENE WHILE YOUR HEART IS IN ANGER !!


.....DONT JUMP INTO A BDSM RELATIONSHIP CAUSE YOUR DESPERATE OR LONLY!!


....DONT PLAY ON FIRST MEET!!

and that is so because Mommah said SO !!

BY Mommah Passion ,monday december 18 .2006

House of Dark Passion

Reminder for all who going to meet someone ofline ...

I am re posting this for 1 of My sub friends/sis .
she going to have a meet ..hopefully a safe meet.
I wishe her the best time possible
well anyone else need this reminder 2 ..
stay safe no matter what!!!!!

PLEASE read on ...I need to stress this because to many people
regardless vanilla or lifestyle meet without safety .

safety for there
very own life .think about it twice and make your safety check up on
everyone you wanna meet.

SAFETY
Emotional Safety
No,
pain is not all physical. Sometimes, it's in your head and your heart
as well, and sometimes, those scars are the hardest to heal. Here are
some tips to lessen your chances of getting them in the first place.

1)Be honest. With yourself. With prospective partners. Never be ashamed to
admit you don't know something, or to ask questions. If you're looking
for 24/7, don't tell someone you only want to play. If you're looking
for love and romance, be up-front about it. If you are dishonest about
what you want, it's not only you who could get hurt in the long run.


2)Never reveal too much about your personal life to anyone on-line. There are
too many people who'll use your heartaches and problems for hot IM
gossip.

3)If something doesn't feel right, it probably isn't. Your instincts, once
again, are your greatest gift and resource. Use them, and listen to
them.

4)Heed warnings. If you're told by more than one person that a
prospective partner could be trouble, LISTEN.
Take into account that it's someone else's opinion of someone you're
getting to know, but always listen, and openly ask your partner about
what you hear. Ultimately, it's up to you to decide if you believe
everything you hear, but always hear what someone is trying to tell
you, and always, check it out. 5)If
a prospective partner asks you not to ask anyone else on-line about
them, ask yourself why. Then ask them why. And if you can't come up
with any satisfactory answers, either walk away, or proceed with
EXTREME
caution.


6)If a prospective partner is hesitant with personal
information after you've already given yours, then take it as a
warning. FIND OUT WHY.

7)Don't get dragged into on-line gossip. It may be fun for awhile, but
eventually it will only come back to haunt you. There are people
on-line who have nothing better to do. Don't become one of them.
8)Think for yourself. Trust yourself. Be honest with yourself. And
above all, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
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More on Safe Calls
Note:
These suggestions may seem to be bordering on paranoia, but it doesn't
cost anything to be cautious. Don't take chances when your mental,
physical and emotional health could be at risk. Do
what's right for you, but consider these or similar suggestions very
seriously before agreeing to meet someone for BDSM activity for the
first time.{there shouldnt be any BDSM activity on first Meet} Any
Dom/me or sub who is reputable and trustworthy should have no problems
with these or similar procedures, and if they do, perhaps that should
be a warning signal that they are not what they appear to be. The
following information should be given to the person(s) receiving your
safe calls: Your full name Your home address and phone number Make,
model, color, and license plate number of your car if you are driving
yourself, or Detailed information (flight numbers and times, rental car
information, etc.) if you are using other transportationALL the
information you have on person you are meeting, including:
Their full
name and screenname(s) or
logon ID(s)
Their address and phone number(s)
Their age, description, any and all information you have on the person
you are meeting.Pass on to your safe call person(s): Where you are
meeting The name of place you are meeting The
address of the meeting place, including room number (if applicable)
{THERE SHOULDNT BE A MEET IN A HOTEL ROOM}

and phone number (if you do
not have it ahead of time, give it during first phone call) When you
are meeting - time and date {ALWAYS A PLACE IN PUPLIC} The phone number
for the local police in the town you are meeting
Be sure to have agreed and understood codewords for your safe call, one
indicating that everything is ok, and one indicating that you need
help. The first phone call should be made within 15 minutes of the
established meeting time. The second phone call should be made within
30 minutes {OR EARLIER} after the first. The
third phone call should be made within 2 hours after that or before
leaving the place of the meeting, whichever comes first. The fourth
phone call should be made within 30 minutes of leaving the meeting. If
the meeting lasts longer than 3 hours, phone calls should be made no
less than every 2 hours apart until you part company... then proceed
with the departing call and the last call SAFE CALLS From:
"acquiescent" safety thank you
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♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥♥ ♥ ♥ Safecalls?What are they? ?Who Needs them?
?How can they help? Many times people are so eager to meet and/or have
a session they forget about Safety. A Safe Call is a call that is used
when you are meeting your partner real time. It is a way of letting
someone know who you are going to be with, where you are going to go
and gives a way for that person to contact you to make sure that what
you thought was going to happen, does. Set up for either you or your
Safe Call to call you either at a specified time. If it is at a
specified time, then it is your responsbiity to call your Safe Call
within a half hour either way of the designated time agreed to. If your
Safe Call is the one making the call, to be sure that you are ok. If in
either case you cannot be reached or spoken to, it is the
responsibility of the Safe Call to contact the authorities, whether the
Hotel Manager or the police from the city you are in. Another method of
using a safe-call is to decide upon two code phrases, which would sound
normal to a person over-hearing the conversation, but that would
signify either 'all ok' or 'trouble'. Such phrases can range from 'my
head hurts' to 'I will be missing the last bus so don't worry if I take
the train'. Obviously, adjust the phrases to your environment. Who can
you have as a Safe Call?? Anyone you trust with the information you get
from your partner. The information is not for personal use but to use
in a case of true emergency. Whether it is your mom, dad, sister, close
friend or even someone you know online that you feel comfortable with.
DO NOT go unless SOMEONE knows you are meeting your partner..!!!! The
FIRST MEETING should ALWAYS be in a public place. By having a Safe Call
you are at least taking care not only of yourself but of those you are
leaving behind, if something goes awry with the meeting. You should NOT
plan on playing/scening at this first meeting. Use this time to get to
know each other socially and get to know the personal you. It is also a
time to make sure that the chemistry is right between you both. If it
is not - it's ok. Not everyone you meet for the first time is going to
be that instant attraction. But be honest about it. What you both said
online/telephone may in fact NOT be what the reality is when you meet.
It is far better to know in the beginning than to keep on and hurt for
a lifetime later. It's up to you to make sure that someone knows what
is going on so that you can get help if you need it. Take care of you
for yourself and your loved one's
.~Mommah Passion aka LadyJade