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Friday, January 21, 2011

finding your 'pain level'?

I wrote this Friday December 7, 2007
I found it and thought it would be good to post it here.please enjoy My essay !!
finding your 'pain level'?
Sadomasochism
Sadomasochism is often considered - in contrast to Dominance and Submission – the more physical side of BDSM. It refers to sexual gratification through the infliction of pain or suffering upon another person.The regions of the brain that manage sexual stimuli and pain overlap, resulting in some individuals associating pain with sexual pleasure as the neurological reactions are intertwined.
Sadomasochism is categorized a "Disorder of sexual preference" and described as follows: "A preference for sexual activity which involves the infliction of pain or humiliation, or bondage. If the subject prefers to be the recipient of such stimulation this is called masochism; if the provider, sadism. Often an individual obtains sexual excitement from both sadistic and masochistic activities.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BDSM


My personnel thoughts about this:

sadist and masochist are perfect matches ....

but how is the match if a Dominant didn't tell a sub he wants to collar that he is a sadist....truth will come out after the collaring and in the first session ...

how about a sub who desires to feel pain but when the time comes she cant handle it?

How can a true Sadist meet his match?

any newbie submissive needs to learn about her/his own feelings and emotions before even thinking of a collar....
best is to explore with a munch group ..friends in the lifestyle the have her/his best interest in mind.

start of with a play session to find your 'painlevel'

let the Dominant use some spanking toys and after 1 hit ...try to express it in a level from 1-10
each spanking tool should be tried once in a beginner session
there should be a spanking session in 1 day ...and on another time {not the same day} maybe different session like sensation play.{wax play etc}
if the spanking tools session is repeated a few days later ..the pain level test should be repeated.
it will take some time and a few sessions till a submissive newbie will know her / his individual pain level.
the painlevel is different for each individual and each day.there are days a painlevel can be high and the next it may be low.Its a lot up to how the person feels.
there are a few submissive's ..there pain level will change in the level of submission and how much she /he desires to please her/his ONE !
I ,Mommah Jade would never try to match a newbie submissive with a Sadist Dominant.
I recommend that a submissive receive a training and some basic sessions before even be in a real time consideration.
basic training for BDSM can be fun ..but after everything is set for a consideration collar the submissive should be trained {personnel training} by there ONE to learn about there ONES likes and dislikes ..to please in a deeper level.
Mommah Jade Dec o7,2007 12.o7 am
Clover-style nipple clamps
The clover clamp, also referred to as a "butterfly clamp", is of Japanese design and has the ability to provide increasing tension if pulled on. The clamp itself is flat, but about 10 cm by 5 cm in size. Using spring tension, the clamp is applied to the nipple and the tension of its spring holds the clamp in place. This clamp usually provides a very high pain level, and is usually only used by more advanced users. To increase tension on the nipples, small weights such as fishing line sinkers can be attached to the ends of the clamp. As increased pulling tension is applied to the clamp, it will cause the jaws of the clamp to close tighter depending on the amount of pull pressure. Another method is to use the clamps to keep a person in one place. If cord is tied from the clamp to a fixed place, the wearer of the clamps cannot move away because the clamps will tighten as they try to move. Eventually the clamps would be pulled off the nipples, but not before considerable pain and discomfort is felt.
Friday December 7, 2007
~Mommah Jad

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